September 27, 2011

  • To my Stalkers/Spies

    September 12, 2011

    There many fears regarding creepy stalkers on the Internet, who create accounts just to follow someone's blog and see what they are doing.  While I do not know what possesses a person to stalk another person, I do believe that stalker is unhealthy psychologically.  Once the victim finds out that they had been stalked, the feelings of violation comes; it is unnerving.  How could another human do this?  Follow a person everywhere without his or her permission?  What ever happened to privacy?  These are some of the feelings that are associated with the stalker and the person being stalked.

    Personally, I believe that I have at least one stalker.  There are people from my past who I know have nothing better to do than to follow my activities and figure out what is going on in my life.  This is sad because they seem not to have a life of their own, but living through another life in an unhealthy way.  What really bothered me about the last two stalkers is that they usually do it under the guise of "Christian love."  They followed me everywhere on the web and justified it by saying that they were doing it out of love.  We should really set boundaries against those who are crazy and demented enough to do something unhealthy and justify it with religion.

    Right after I started posting on Xanga more often and after I had cleaned up my subscription and friends lists, I noticed that there a few recently created accounts befriending me.  It is a bit creepy because I do not know if these people are trolls, stalkers, and/or both or even worse.  Maybe, they are legitimate - all time will tell.  Whatever they are, my site is public (www.christenstein.com) and anyone can read it, which they should.  Perhaps, I am enabling the stalkers by making my site public and linking to Facebook.

    For it is shameful even to mention what the disobedient do in secret. But everything exposed by the light becomes visible, for it is light that makes everything visible. Ephesians 5:12-14

    Are you suspicious that you have stalkers?  If you are suspicious, do you think friends lock and other privacy mechanisms really help?

    Copyright 2011 by Christenstein

Comments (3)

  • I haven't worried about it much.  Anyone can post to my site, if it is not something that I think contributes to the blog - positive or negative - I generally delete it.  A bit of trouble on my part but none that I can't live with.  This is directed mostly to those who put ads in comments.  If it is negative feedback, that is what makes the world go round. 

  • I have not had a problem with stalkers, particularly, and my site has been public from the beginning. I have blocked a couple of commentors when their comments were inappropriate, or were from someone who hijacked someone else's identity. That was easy to spot. Those comments also were deleted. Such can be reported as abuse to Xanga as well. I also have refused to "friend" those whom I feel have nothing in common with and have no good reason to "friend" me. Some want to accumulate more credits by adding to their friends list, but that's not a good reason for me to accept them. Xanga has provided many ways to deal with unwanted intrusions including "protected posts" or "friends lock.". So far, I have seen no need to employ those; but if it became necessary I would. I would say those provisions generally are helpful.

    ~~Blessings 'n Cheers

  • @DonnaLou - @mommachatter - Thank you for your comments.  I appreciate them and will think about them as I continue to post here.  

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